Last week I came home from Zara with a long red and white striped dress. It was loud. It was bright. It was so fun. I loved it. The funny thing is I was on the fence about purchasing it for the exact reasons why I loved it.
This got me thinking about why we are the way we are. For all of us I’m sure there is something in our past that continues to affect our way of thinking. That is really vague. Let me give an example. Growing up it was sort of looked down upon in our house to wear a pony tail to church on Sunday. Why? Well, it isn’t ‘Sunday Best’. I am 30-years-old and I have still never worn my hair in a pony tail for church. Now, there is nothing wrong with wearing a pony tail to church. The point is this idea was put into my mind at a young age and I still can’t shake it. What else makes us think the way we do? Here is my little list:
-Health. Yes, I want to eat every cupcake in sight but I don’t want to have a heart attack or gain a million pounds so.. “I’m fine with this glass of water, thank you.”
-Friends. Somewhere along the way our opinions tend to follow that of the people we hang around. This is why it is so important to choose good friends. In high school my friend, Whitney always wore high wedge shoes. I wanted to be taller too so I borrowed a pair from her and looked super ridiculous the one day I wore them. I hated them–but she wore them so I wanted to wear them too. Great logic, I know.
-Family. I have two small kids. I am terrified of the day when they come home and their friends opinions mean more to them then mine. Remember that scene in Father of the Bride when Steve Martin tells his daughter to wear a jacket because it’s cold outside? She says, “I’ll be fine dad.” Then her boyfriend confirms it is cold out there and she decides to wear the jacket. Guys. Help. What I can do now is establish a foundation for my kids that exemplifies all the traits I hope they will grow up to have. Simple right?
-Media. We are constantly told what to buy, eat, do and be. Oh, Jennifer Aniston uses that moisturizer? I will too! (Hint, she doesn’t use that moisturizer. It’s called a celebrity endorsement and it tricks us all.)
There are more. But this isn’t a term paper.
Today as I opened my May edition of Real Simple, (this has been one of my favorite magazines for probably ten years), I came across this quote:
“What if you just did it your own way? No rules, no right or wrong, just what you think is beautiful?” (Sandra Magsamen)
How do you be you? Like, I’m really asking. Comment below.